proust questionnaire

in the back of vanity fair every month there's a "proust questionnaire." I love reading other people's questionnaires (I don't know why) but I never realized it was proust one. not that I knew what that meant until today. I have never even read proust although I knew that makes me extremely uncouth and uneducated. also, I can never remember the right way to say his name. anyways, I came across this page and was v. into it.
this is what it says:


The young Marcel was asked to fill out questionnaires at two social events: one when he was 13, another when he was 20. Proust did not invent this party game; he is simply the most extraordinary person to respond to them. At the birthday party of Antoinette Felix-Faure, the 13-year-old Marcel was asked to answer the following questions in the birthday book, and here's what he said:

• What do you regard as the lowest depth of misery?
To be separated from Mama


• Where would you like to live?
  
  In the country of the Ideal, or, rather, of my ideal
  
  
• What is your idea of earthly happiness?
  
  
  To live in contact with those I love, with the beauties of nature, with a quantity of books and music, and to have, within easy distance, a French theater
  
  
• To what faults do you feel most indulgent?
  
  To a life deprived of the works of genius
  
  
• Who are your favorite heroes of fiction?
  
  Those of romance and poetry, those who are the expression of an ideal rather than an imitation of the real
  
  
• Who are your favorite characters in history?
  
  A mixture of Socrates, Pericles, Mahomet, Pliny the Younger and Augustin Thierry
  
  
• Who are your favorite heroines in real life?
  
  A woman of genius leading an ordinary life
  
  
• Who are your favorite heroines of fiction?
  
  Those who are more than women without ceasing to be womanly; everything that is tender, poetic, pure and in every way beautiful
  
  
• Your favorite painter?
  
  Meissonier
  
  
• Your favorite musician?
  
  Mozart
  
  
• The quality you most admire in a man?
  
  Intelligence, moral sense
  
  
• The quality you most admire in a woman?
  
  Gentleness, naturalness, intelligence
  
  
• Your favorite virtue?
  
  All virtues that are not limited to a sect: the universal virtues
  
  
• Your favorite occupation?
  
  Reading, dreaming, and writing verse
  
  
• Who would you have liked to be?
  
  Since the question does not arise, I prefer not to answer it. All the same, I should very much have liked to be Pliny the Younger.
  
  

This questionnaire tells us much about two things, the character of petit Marcel, and the amusement of the young in the Belle Epoque. We see Marcel as a sweet and dreamy Mama's boy, brainy, aesthetic, a young citizen of the world with much sympathy for the feminine. What he sees in Pliny the Younger, famous only for speaking and writing letters, is hard to grasp.

Seven years after the first questionnaire, Proust was asked, at another social event, to fill out another; the questions are much the same, but the answers somewhat different, indicative of his traits at 20:

• Your most marked characteristic?
  
  A craving to be loved, or, to be more precise, to be caressed and spoiled rather than to be admired
  
  
• The quality you most like in a man?
  
  Feminine charm
  
  
• The quality you most like in a woman?
  
  A man's virtues, and frankness in friendship
  
  
• What do you most value in your friends?
  
  Tenderness - provided they possess a physical charm which makes their
  tenderness worth having
  
  
• What is your principle defect?
  
  Lack of understanding; weakness of will
  
  
• What is your favorite occupation?
  
  Loving
  
  
• What is your dream of happiness?
  
  Not, I fear, a very elevated one. I really haven't the courage to say
  what it is, and if I did I should probably destroy it by the mere fact of
  putting it into words.
  
  
• What to your mind would be the greatest of misfortunes?
  
  Never to have known my mother or my grandmother
  
  
• What would you like to be?
  
  Myself - as those whom I admire would like me to be
  
  
• In what country would you like to live?
  
  One where certain things that I want would be realized - and where feelings of tenderness would always be reciprocated. [Proust's underlining]
  
  
• What is your favorite color?
  
  Beauty lies not in colors but in thier harmony
  
  
• What is your favorite flower?
  
  Hers - but apart from that, all
  
  
• What is your favorite bird?
  
  The swallow
  
  
• Who are your favorite prose writers?
  
  At the moment, Anatole France and Pierre Loti
  
  
• Who are your favoite poets?
  
  Baudelaire and Alfred de Vigny
  
  
• Who is your favorite hero of fiction?
  
  Hamlet
  
  
• Who are your favorite heroines of fiction?
  
  Phedre (crossed out) Berenice
  
  
• Who are your favorite composers?
  
  Beethoven, Wagner, Shuhmann
  
  
• Who are your favorite painters?
  
  Leonardo da Vinci, Rembrandt
  
  
• Who are your heroes in real life?
  
  Monsieur Darlu, Monsieur Boutroux (professors)
  
  
• Who are your favorite heroines of history?
  
  Cleopatra
  
  
• What are your favorite names?
  
  I only have one at a time
  
  
• What is it you most dislike?
  
  My own worst qualities
  
  
• What historical figures do you most despise?
  
  I am not sufficiently educated to say
  
  
• What event in military history do you most admire?
  
  My own enlistment as a volunteer!
  
  
• What reform do you most admire?
  
  (no response)
  
  
• What natural gift would you most like to possess?
  
  Will power and irresistible charm
  
  
• How would you like to die?
  
  A better man than I am, and much beloved
  
  
• What is your present state of mind?
  
  Annoyance at having to think about myself in order to answer these
  questions
  
  
• To what faults do you feel most indulgent?
  
  Those that I understand
  
  
• What is your motto?
  
  I prefer not to say, for fear it might bring me bad luck.
  
  

The second set of questions and answers give us Proust as a young man, mad for conquest, drawn to love crossing conventional sexual lines, still fixated on Mama. His aesthetic sensibilities have grown more serious (I, however, would not give up Mozart for Schumann, with all his interminable faux endings.) In these responses are early threads of character found in the narrator of Remembrance.