How to Impress a Girl - wikiHow

How to Impress a Girl - wikiHow

How to Impress a Girl

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Everyone can name someone who's nice, pretty, smart,funny, etc. Want to impress that certain girl? Here's what to do and what not to do.

editSteps

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   Be well-groomed. Brush your hair, shower, wash your face, brush your teeth, use deodorant, a little cologne, and apply acne medicine daily (if you have a problem with your skin). Don't wear your pants off your butt, often called "sagging", it's not that attractive to the majority of girls. This is essential if you are even going to approach an attractive girl . Wear clean, attractive clothes that fit. (If in doubt, get an older sister or close female friend to help you in this department.) Don't wear skin tight clothes, but don't wear clothes that are too baggy either, girls hate that.
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   Have a great attitude. Be fun to hang around with, easy to laugh with, and be outgoing. Just don't be full of yourself. A girl may like an overly cocky guy at first, but eventually, she will find it selfish. Don't try to impress everyone - girls like humble guys. At the same time, a sense of humor is always good. Girls love it when guys can make them laugh.
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   Show respect. If you respect everyone and give them their space, they'll all respect you. With girls, it works even better. If they see you respecting everyone, and not getting pushed around while you're at it, they will be reassured that you will treat them right. Be kind to all.
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   Have good conversations. Try to aim for you both to be speaking half of the time, but make sure that you are saying something worthwhile; it's not attractive when only one person talks endlessly or when they say bad words. Another thing to watch for is her attention. If she isn't paying complete attention, do not repeat yourself several times. This makes girls feel you are desperate, and usually annoying.
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   Show interest in her - let her talk. The #1 mistake when talking to a girl is focusing on yourself. Girls are way more comfortable when they talk about common interests. Ask about their interests, hobbies, favorite books, music, etc. If she asks you a question, answer it in a few, short sentences and then redirect the question back at her. This engages her in the conversation. When in doubt, compliment her like your hair looks nice today. Even if a girl does not like you yet, complimenting her will make her feel good about herself and think positively about you.
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   Try flirting! Don't be obsessive! If you both make eye contact, do not be the one to look away, but do not stare for too long. When you both make eye contact, just give a slight smile. Touch her arm or shoulder for a few seconds. Physical contact is a great way to show you're interested. If she seems uncomfortable, do not do it again.
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   She may look away and she might blush a little. Be careful though; you don't want to stare her down. A good move is to look away, and if she likes you she will shoot you glances. Watch for that. And be courteous. Open doors. Do kind things, girls love that.
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   Respect her friends and their ideas and opinions. Always speak highly of her and never talk trash about her. It will damage her reputation and yours. Hopefully then it will work both ways - she will be tolerant of your friends. Be careful not to compliment her friends too much, however. Example: You may say "Your friends seem cool. We should hang out with them and my friends some time, I think they'd get along". You may not say "Sally is so hot. She has the nicest eyes". You may think getting her jealous is a good idea, but it just makes them angry.
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   Have your friends be nice to her It's a fantastic thing when your friends don't make a total fool of you. Warn them ahead of time and avoid topics pertaining to embarrassing moments of your past or awkward jokes that make very little sense. Don't introduce her to your friends right away though. You want her to like you, not start dating one of your buddies. If your friends like to embarrass you, try to avoid them altogether.
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    Be polite to her parents. Be kind to everyone, especially them. Don't be too over-the-top charming with the parents, however, or they'll think that you have something to hide.Be willing make sure that you and her father get along as he will be looking out for his daughter.
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    Don't criticize her. Unless she asks for constructive criticism. And even then she probably wants you to compliment her.
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    Be romantic, but not over the top. If you've been dating for a while you may attempt a grand romantic gesture, otherwise, you'll look like a stalker. It's also okay to be a little cheesy, like giving her a bouquet of roses and a loving poem. It may sound like a bad idea, but girls will find it thoughtful if it came from your heart. A better idea than being cheesy is to really LISTEN to her and remember things she likes. Then take her somewhere she's mentioned wanting to go, or buy her the books she's been wanting and hide a little note inside. Flowers and candy are really cliche and don't really mean much since anyone can just buy someone flowers. Showing you've been listening to her wants and needs goes a LOT farther than roses!!
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    Start talking to her casually. If you don't know her, make friendly conversation. Ask for the time, and/or compliment her watch. Avoid throwing too many compliments about clothes or shoes around, that might make women think that you are homosexual as many gay men are fashion-forward.
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    Do not play "hard to get". Sure, you'll get their attention for a day or two then after a while, the girl will end up frustrated, and she'll think you don't find interest in her anymore.
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    Be careful with what you say. Do not discuss bodily functions in her presence, or make jokes of a sexual nature unless she starts doing so. Also, don't discuss anything gross or inappropriate. She'll get grossed out.
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    Hum in her presence She might think of you whenever she hears that song. And she'll probably be impressed by your good taste in music. Some girls have actually dumped guys or stopped liking guys when they insulted the music they like. So, it's OK not to like her music, but don't be insulting her favorite singer(s)/band(s)! Try to figure out what music you BOTH like.
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    Start an inside joke with her! She will feel included and become closer to you. It also gives you an easy-to-come-up-with conversation starter. Try not to overuse it and kill the joke.
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    End later meetings with a hug, or plans to meet some other time, if you can. Make sure to tell her that you enjoyed her company.
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    Tell her that you "like her" frequently. Ask her out.
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    Touch her occasionally, like on the shoulder or hand. Be sure do not touch her private parts, however.
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    Opposites attract. Be a courageous gentleman, not coy like a lady might be. Stand up for her if something is wrong.
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    Show your funny side. A lot of women look for sense of humor in a partner. You should however be mindful of their reactions to your jokes and avoid offensive humor. Unless they like that. Find out if she likes comedy. If she watches Comedy Central, find out her favorite comedian or favorite impression and try it out for her.
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    Make her feel good. This is a really good thing that impresses girls. They love it when you let them know you care for them. If she's sad, just simply put your arm around her neck. Make her happy, at least as much as you can. Flirt with her, hold her hand it will make her feel special.
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    Don't ever make fun of your friends around her If you do, it might make her think that you're a jerk. When someone makes fun of other people, it makes a woman wonder what they might be saying about HER when she's not around!!!
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    Be honest. Do something creative, something extraordinary or something that others never do. That creates a question mark for the girl about you, and it also makes you interesting.
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    Be open. Don't share too many secrets with her. Sprinkle a little and don't irritate her asking repeated questions. Always keep your face glowing and charming.
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    Dont ignore her. Dont ever ignore her such as Phone calls, text messages or facebook, make her feel like you always have time for her.

editTips

• An important tip for complimenting women: Instead of saying "That's a pretty dress" or "I like your outfit",. say "You look really great in that dress." Compliment the woman, not the article of clothing!
• Never touch a girl on her hips until you get really serious. Make a romantic move if you feel ready. She will feel important, and that someone actually likes her. If she says to stop, stop. Nothing is worse than a girl seeing you as a harasser. If she acts a little odd, stop. Don't take it personally because some girls just don't know how to act around guys. Do it another day if this happens.
• Show sympathy and affection. If the girl you really enjoy being around is sad or hurt, give her a quick hug. Don't just say that you're sorry and you hope she feels better. This works very well, because then the girl knows you care about her.
• If you have braces,nnm glasses and acne... don't be disheartened! Wear contacts, use some Proactive/Accutane, and voila. Girls put a lot of effort into their appearance, perhaps you should do the same. But don't think just because you have braces, glasses, or acne, that the world is over, sometimes it works! Lots of girls think braces and glasses are attractive, and many girls can get past a bad skin complexion (although they may tease you about it).
• Have good posture!
• Don't act tough or try to be a thug. This doesn't attract girls.
• Don't follow her around everywhere. It automatically gives you a reputation as a stalker, and it will freak her out. Even following her just a little can create a stalker rep., depending on how you act. How you act can determine whether she will actually want you to be around her all the time or if even just seeing your face is too much contact. if you know she sees you as a stalker, lay off because trying to do damage control tends to just worsen your situation, instead try to get a friend of your or of hers to help your issue.
• If she just doesn't get that you like her (which most likely won't happen because girls are pretty good at detecting this kind of stuff!) drop hints.
• Don't play games. Waiting a few days to call her, showing up a little late to things or anything like that is only proving you are unreliable, a fake and a loser. Likewise, don't tolerate it if she does any of these things to you.
• Use correct grammar when texting her or talking to her. If you don't then she will think that you aren't very intelligent and that will turn certain girls off. (E.G. use predictive (T9) text so that you can't spell something wrong in a text, if you're unsure of apostrophes and such just say the full word (e.g. "they're" is "they are", but "their" means a group of peoples' belongings) also if you're not the best at getting this right in conversation then read up on how to speak proper english)
• While it's important to connect to her friends, you must avoid coming off as a player, as players make girls feel unimportant and 'just another girl'. If a girl's friends do not approve of you, this will influence her opinion of you.
• Don't be weird around her. NOTE: Weird and unusual are different things. Some girls will see your unusual attribute as unique and special, especially if it endears you because it's a secret from one of your friends.
• Share a secret with her and hope she shares one with you (e.g., strike up a conversation starting with something along the lines of "Do you want to know a secret?" If she reciprocates then it shows she trusts you and knows you trust her. DON'T be disheartened if she doesn't share one back straight away, she will take your secret as a sign of your trust and this will build your relationship.
• Be yourself. Don't be fake.
• Don't stand in the back and be quiet all the time, you'll look weird.
• Always be careful and respectful.
• Girls don't like serious type guys they like comedy too much so they like comedian guys...girls show that they don't like senti guys...but one thing keep in mind that you can get close to girls by emotions.
• If the girl is not into you try talking about things she likes if you want her to go out with you you should definitely not be a teasing jerk just be nice
• Some girls may be put off by such early outbursts of physical contact - the problem can be solved by spending more time with the girl.
• make sure to smell good. Girls love it when you have cologne on or maybe a little axe. the smell sometimes gets on their clothes and theyll always think of you. Also she will know when you are near because of your scent.
• Be a kind and considerate person. Don't be jerk or try and show off, as this is not a gesture appreciated by most girls.

editWarnings

• If you have followed all the steps above and it didn't work, don't feel disheartened. There's other girls out there that will be much more appreciative than the one who turned you down.
• Also, it says above that some girls like to talk about themselves- remember, some girls do. Some also would rather not have you obsessing about her hobbies, sports, etc. Be cool. Relate what she's saying to something about you, and then continue the conversation. It's a balancing act. You don't want to seem to into-yourself, but you also don't want to make her carry the whole conversation.
• Remember to talk about yourself and your own hobbies etc. That way you come off as a good conversationalist and as a person with a life. DON'T hog the conversations though and be sure to LISTEN and find out about her too.
• Every girl is different! Find out if she likes tattoos before you show her the skull and crossbones tattoo on your chest! (It's probably a bad idea to get a skull and crossbones tattoo on your chest (or elsewhere))
• Never rush her or pressure her or show her a bad attitude.
• Don't talk about her weight or ask her anything related to this subject. Even the girls with the most attractive bodies have insecurities. Even a comment intended as a joke could seriously hurt her feelings. Leave this subject alone!!!! If she asks you about how she looks boost her confidence, tell her something nice or flirt.
• At the same time, keep your own weight in check. Eat healthfully and work out. Don't go too crazy with the body building, but being toned never hurts. Watch out for skinny-fat (where you are skinny but flabby).
• Girls love confident guys, but don't be cocky. A cocky guy turns girls off.
• If you have problems with shyness, think of the most confident person you know and of what they would do in each situation. Don't be fake, just change your mindset.
• Girls like that you care enough to buy them something. Don't go overboard and get flowers for her unless the time calls for it or she is very likely to think you did something wrong.
• Some girls don't really know what to talk about with a guy so they might tend to talk about things you don't care about or go on and on about who said what. Don't be mean about it even though you're fighting boredom because it could have taken her a lot of courage to talk to you. Just show interest and change the subject to something more interesting, or politely exit the conversation.
• Do not chew gum when talking to her. You should throw it away if there are no trash bins, do not chew with your mouth open, pop, or blow bubbles.
• Don't ever talk about sports unless she likes sports. If the girl does like sports, she will probably be happy to talk about them. Another thing, don't boast about how you beat another person, whether it is in a game or sports. You can bring it up, but bragging makes you look egotistical.
• Never, ever, make fun of her. If the two of you are still only good friends, but you want to start dating, etc; then don't. Yeah, it would be funny if you said it to one of your guy friends, but It could be very offensive to her. And if you DO make fun of her, don't giver her the guilt trip and say "Oh, it's your fault you're angry. I was just joking".
• Don't ever raise your voice to get a point across.
• If you cuss make sure it doesn't bother her or else it'll probably make her mad. Plenty of girls are okay with swearing, but others are not. Be respectful of her opinion. Also, girls don't normally find cursing and fighting attractive, only immature and stupid small girls (unless you are defending her) so be sure to watch what you say and do.
• Some girls are natural flirts but aren't interested in you. Just because she hangs out all the time with you, hugs you and does other seductive things doesn't mean she likes you. Take things slowly so you can really know.

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